Hello friends on awesome healing journeys,
(If you have not yet read understanding stress and trauma jump there first and then come back to this article)
Now that we have described the physiological background of trauma we can better understand how to deal with our day to day stressors and challenges by drawing the necessary parallels.
Imagine you need to get to work on Monday morning for an important meeting at 9:00 A.M. You leave with ample time to spare but are caught in ridiculous bumper to bumper traffic. You feel your palms are sweaty, your breathing is shallow and you find yourself really stressed out. In this scenario your life is not in danger, but part of your brain still feels a sense of threat or urgency and lights up the sympathetic nervous system. The amount of stress hormones released is much less than in the potentially life threatening example in part 1, but some stress hormones are secreted none the less.
Let’s take another example. One of the most common and toxic stressors is domestic arguments and fights. Fighting with one’s spouse, partner, parents, or family member creates an environment where stress and tension are sent into the body as the “confrontation” takes place. Again, it is the feeling of confrontation, fear, or worry that lights up the sympathetic system because it feels it will either have to FIGHT or FLEIGH.
Experiencing either of these scenarios even once can be taxing on our nervous system. However, when they occur often and repeatedly they can easily overcome our feeling of well- being and leave us with their ever painful gifts of stress and tension. Likewise they can easily make one feel like their days of happiness are as far gone.
To enable oneself to really feel their best and have the ability to access their true potential happiness one need to learn how to assist their bodies to discharge even such “minor” stressors that come up during our day to day existence.
Our bodies may be able to “handle” our minor daily stressors and aggravations. However, these experiences can still have their effect of holding down our system from feeling its best and making one feel out of touch with their happiness.
Through learning how to discharge even the minor stressors and fears that come up in one’s day, one develops the skills to be able to access their true happiness on their own terms. No more will they be dependent on the external circumstances of life to go perfectly in order for them to feel great. Now they can have control of these experiences by learning to release the tension that’s built into life.
Take away points
- Even small daily stressors can affect ones overall sense of well being.
- In order to maintain a real feeling of well-being and happiness one needs to learn how to discharge the stress that they accumulate through the standard stressors of life.