Imagine, after a long day finally sitting down to a candle lit dinner with your wife, husband, or special someone. The kids are sleeping or being watched by a babysitter, the food is all prepared and smells great and all what’s left to do is sit down and enjoy the blissful evening to come. The stage is set, the timing is perfect, and nothing is in your way of enjoying the special dinner that is to come.

Then out of nowhere the peaceful energy that had just started to creep up and develop between the both of you is quickly replaced with an argument that is triggered. The little seed of sweet harmony is promptly banished with a back and forth of arguing and/or hostility.

Why is it so challenging not to throw in a comment that probably will cause an argument or ruin the evening?

Why is it so hard to be able to experience these types of special moments?

What is so threatening about bliss and peace that (on some level) it needs to be ruined?

Furthermore, why is it so much easier to maintain the status-quo of arguments and cold peace than create a fuzzy and love filled environment?

The answer my friends lies with the concept of CONTAINER. 

The more stressed or emotionally blocked we are, the more difficult it becomes to contain intense emotions.

This applies to both negative AND positive emotions.

Meaning, we lose our ability to FULLY CONTAIN or handle intense feeling even when they are positive.

We lose our inner container to be able to hold and enjoy those experiences.

In the above example, being able to really feel love and serenity was too much to handle; too much to contain; so the moment needed to be broken.

(This concept also helps explain many sexual dysfunctions. At their core, many of these dysfunctions are expressions of the individual not being able to handle a strong “charge.” Meaning their nervous system is not able to handle the intensity of physical intimacy even though objectively it is positive. In other words, their emotional container struggles to handle intense positive feelings. As a result, as the emotional and physical charge begins to build, they feel a need to check out, become withdrawn, or do something to find a way to escape the experience that quickly becomes overwhelming).

But don’t worry there is hope :)

The power of a mind-body approach towards emotional healing is that it helps one expand and develop their emotional CONTAINER.

This process enables one to be able to handle a wider range of emotion without getting overwhelmed.

 (Sounds kind of awesome, right?) 

Click here to get my short audio on overcoming anxiety and strengthening your emotional container.

As one expands their ability to handle emotion on a wider range of intensity they can begin to access the beauty of life on a deeper level; beauty that was waiting all around them just waiting to be embraced.

Think of the possibilities,

The sun shining that was never noticed or soaked up;

The food that was never fully tasted;

The relationships that were never fully appreciated or enjoyed;

By deepening ones healing and strengthening their nervous system they can expand their ability to truly “handle” the beauty and positive “intensity” of life all around them. Additionally, they won’t get thrown off my negative triggers as easily.

Believe that by investing to deepen your emotional container you will have great returns that will enable you to have a “richer”, deeper, and more enjoyable life.

Take away points:

  • One can sabotage beautiful moments (even unconsciously) because they have no “container” to be able to experience them.

  • Sexual dysfunction is often caused when an individual is challenged to contain positive sensations.

  • Once we build our emotional container so much beauty of life that was always around us can suddenly be appreciated.